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  • tapgrrl 8:41 pm on December 16, 2014 Permalink | Reply  

    Double and triple layers of horseshoes 

    A few months ago I put on a double layer of horseshoe taps on a pair of flat-heeled dressy boots.  I actually glued the second tap on top of the first–long story.  But some of you guys have done me a lot better.  One reader, “An Older Guy (Dan)” sent me some photos a long time ago of his double-tap creations, some involving large crescent size 8 taps on top of horseshoes and others straight double horseshoes.  I’m afraid to say that I can’t find those photos right now, but when I do I’ll post them.

    In the meantime, another regular reader of the blog (I think he goes by “Tapnut” on the blog) sent me photos of his latest tap effort.  And he’s not shy about wearing them in public either.  Here’s what he wrote:

    “Check out my new blue suede penny loafers.  Elvis, eat your heart out…these have bling and an attitude. It was difficult finding suede shoes with a hard stacked heel.  A hard heel makes a good base for a better sound but the heel was to short for my tastes.  So, I used a German heel iron to lift up a traditional heel plate.  They have a good loud sound and I especially like the shine of the metal taps.”

    I particularly liked the thickness of the metal–the heel iron is about double the thickness of regular horseshoe taps, so the heel iron + the horseshoe tap together make a triple-thick layer of metal all around the heel. Awesome!  Here are his photos:

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    And those of you who read my previous post below about my New York trip where I discovered I’d launched a little tap revival at my workplace there: Check that post again.  I’ve been writing followups as “comments,” providing some detail about the individual tap-wearing women (and men).

  • tapgrrl 9:12 pm on December 8, 2014 Permalink | Reply  

    I may have started a small taps revival! 

    One source of income I have is working as an at-home editor for a major New York publisher.  They send me stuff to edit & proof, and I send it back to them.  But several times a year I have to go to NY to meet with my supervisor and editing group.  Of course, I always wear shoes with taps on them, since that is all that I have.  And New York, you know, is a big walking town where a fair number of men and women wear black plastic taps under their heels and the toes of their soles to cut down on shoe repair costs.  Also, I’m sure it was a major metal tap-wearing place once upon a time, and I’ve even purchased shoes with metal taps for my collection from more than one NY woman.  Anyway, although I’ve had one or two conversations about my metal taps with co-workers, two trips ago that subject came up when I was having coffee with several women and two men in the group.  NY is one place where shoe repair people still carry metal taps, at least some of them do, and one or two mentioned they might try getting some for their dressy wear-at-the-office shoes.  Well, on my last trip, what should I discover but 5 of the women in the office and both of the men who were in that coffee shop discussion proudly showed me the metal taps on their shoes!!!!  Both men had metal taps on heels and toes–one of the men’s heel taps looked like a #7 Eagle; the other was smaller, probably a #5.  The women’s metal taps varied more in size, mostly because of the kind of heel that was on their shoes.  The chunky dress heels had taps covering most of the heel, but they were probably 2’s and 3’s.  The lower-heeled shoes and chunky-heeled dressy boots had broader heels and correspondingly larger taps.  The largest ones looked like #5’s or #6’s.  Two of the women also had metal toe taps, and one put plastic taps on the toes.  Everyone except one women said they liked having the taps on their shoes, and a couple of them mentioned they liked the authoritative sound they made.  One woman even said that she got her sister, who works at a different company, to put metal taps on her shoes, too!  These women varied in age from late-20s to mid-40s, I’d say, all of them good looking girls who would be bound to be noticed as they click-clicked along Manhattan sidewalks!  So maybe I’ve started something!  What do you think?

    • Blake 8:48 am on December 9, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      this is great for a small revival!!

    • tapboot 9:29 am on December 9, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      I always reminisce about something long ago, I guess. In 1966, I was touring the United Nations building in NY and there was a group of teenage girls also making the tour. One of the girls I especially remember because she was really pretty and had metal taps on her loafers!! They made a really good sound on the Terrazzo floors!!

    • JR 11:31 am on December 10, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      I would call it “back to basics” good salespersonship Heather! (Maybe Barry had some higher power influence too?)

      Now if you can get metal tips on American women’s stilettos back, like they are in UK and Moscow, the city sidewalks would be heaven again. SleepyStilettos told me about one out of ten women use metal heel tips on stilettos in the UK and, another YouTube channel person says it is substantially more in Moscow.

      • Blake 12:24 pm on December 10, 2014 Permalink | Reply

        I was at a Honda dealer one time and a saleswoman had stilettos with steel tips. They sounded awesome, like a pair of Eagle #8’s on wingtips. It was necessary to watch where she was walking on the hard tile floor, and nice that she went around multiple times.

    • tapgrrl 11:30 pm on December 10, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      Blake asked me offline a couple questions about my recent New York experience, so I thought I’d answer them here in case anyone else is interested. One thing he wanted to know was what the women and men who put metal taps on their shoes had to say about them.

      The two men didn’t say anything to me until I brought it up. They’d been at the table when I was talking about my taps on my previous trip so in each case I said something like “so I see you decided to try putting taps on your shoes.” One of them seemed embarrassed by my having noticed, and so he just said “yeah.” We were going in different directions, so I didn’t get to ask him any more Q. Blake, he had on a pair of black dress oxfords.

      The other guy (who’d put larger taps on–probably #7’s and some toe taps too) said it was a terrific idea and he was glad I’d given him the idea. He said his wife liked his taps because she could always tell when he was coming. The shoes he had them on when I saw him were also black oxfords like the other guy’s, but he said he’s put them on another pair of dress shoes and also on some boots (but he didn’t say what kind of boots).

      The five women all had something to say about their taps, but I don’t have time to write more now, so that will have to wait till next time.

      • tapgrrl 9:53 pm on December 11, 2014 Permalink | Reply

        So now I’ll start describing the women at my work who I motivated into putting metal taps on their shoes. I gave them pseudonyms to protect their anonymity, although I doubt any of them have seen this blog since I didn’t tell them anything about it. Geena is a 40-ish attractive brunette (with lots of blonde highlights) who is a single mom of two high school girls, divorced about five years ago from her investment banker husband. She is pretty well-off and comes very well-dressed to work–every day in a different outfit and different pair of shoes, from the little I’ve seen (since I only work in NY two or three days every several months). I remember she did have plastic taps on her heels (except for her stilettos) when I was in NY before, and she was the first one of the women who asked me about my metal taps, even before the coffee shop conversation where this subject came up. I wasn’t surprised that she was one who had metal taps this time around, partly because she’s got that outgoing personality and partly because, as I said, she’d taken an interest in my taps. Both days I worked at the publishers she had on high heels, but the heels were broad from side to side and so the taps were big enough to be noticed–probably #2’s or #3’s. They covered almost the whole heels in both cases. When I asked her what she thought of them, her first comment was that they were useful for getting men’s attention! As I said, she wasn’t shy! I think she’ll be a long-term tap-wearer! So that’s woman #1.

        • tapgrrl 9:32 pm on December 14, 2014 Permalink | Reply

          Two of the other women who decided to put metal taps on their shoes are women in my own editing group. One of them, Janet, is older than the rest of us, about 55 or so, and lives in Manhattan. The other one, Christine, is, like me, a contract editor who lives in the Chicago area and comes to the publisher’s headquarters every 3 or 4 months for debriefing, etc. She’s younger than most of us, about 30, and really bright. (She’s got a graduate degree but has young kids at home, even younger than mine, so this is her only real opportunity to work outside the home.)

          Janet, unlike the rest of us, remembers as a little girl that quite a few women wore taps on their shoes, including her mom. She’s seen them on my shoes ever since I started working for the company–about 4 years ago–and decided to try them on a pair of expensive leather-heeled oxfords and on some nice-looking dressy flats. It took awhile, she said, to find a shoe repair shop that had metal taps, other than dance taps. She showed the oxfords to me–looked like #3’s or #4’s. She didn’t wear the flats to work when I was in NY, but she said the ones on the flats were a little larger. She said she likes them and wants to put them on the other shoes she wears to work, but hasn’t had the time to do so yet.

          Christine said she sometimes sees metal taps on mens shoes in Chicago, but had never seen them on women’s shoes until she met me. She’s a very outgoing girl so it wasn’t surprising to me that when we met at JFK airport to share a cabride into the city, I heard her click-clicking along the walkway even before I saw her taps. She showed me her boots in the taxi–the metal taps covered about half of the heel–probably #5’s–and she also had toe taps. I showed her the horseshoe taps on my boots and she laughed and said she’d have to try those too! I was hoping she’d have taps on the shoes she wore to our meetings the next two days, but that was not to be. She wore soft-soled Mary Jane’s both days.

          I was asked what shoes I wore on my New York trip, so here’s a list:

          (1) black below-the-knee dressy boots, flat 1” heels with horseshoe taps on the heels and #4 toe taps
          (2) brown dressy heeled (2 1/4”) loafers with #7’s on the heels and #5 toe taps
          (3) black dressy flats (1 1/4” heels) with #7’s on the heels and #3 toe taps

          I wore the boots for the flights up and back and in the evenings and the other two pair each one day at work. Very clicky, especially walking the length of the tile floor of the entry hallway in our building! I got lots of attention from the security guards!

          • tapgrrl 11:33 pm on December 18, 2014 Permalink

            There were two other women who were part of that coffee shop discussion of metal taps on shoes who also have put some on their own shoes since then, but I can’t actually say I have seen them because they didn’t happen to wear those shoes to work on the 2 days I was in N.Y. Lynn is about my age, blonde like me, and also originally from California. She said she wasn’t sure about putting them on her shoes because she didn’t know anyone else besides me who did that, but then Janet wore her tapped-up flats to work and Geena wore her black chunky heels with taps on them so Lynn said that was good enough for her. She said she found a shoemaker who still had metal taps and he put them on a pair of heels (small ones) and also on a pair of boots (large enough to cover most of the heel, she said). Although I didn’t get to see them, Lynn said she liked how they stayed on better than plastic taps and that she didn’t mind the clicking sound they made–“Kind of like that!”

            The fifth woman, Brianna, was cooler about the taps she tried on her Ferragamos. She said they were alright, but she said that she preferred to walk silently, so I suspect she’ll have them taken off. Oh well, 6 out of 7 isn’t bad! And I’ll bet none of you have been in a place with 8 people wearing metal taps on their shoes (including me), although not at the same time. But still..

    • bob 5:55 am on December 11, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      i love to see and to hear girls walking with metal tip heels, on tile or on gravel. I love to hear smal stones crushed under her heels, and you?

      • Jr 4:23 pm on December 12, 2014 Permalink | Reply

        Yes Bob, I love women wearing metal heel tips too. Not only does she sound so-o feminine, she generally makes herself more attractive and knows what she wants. Frugal, caring, authoritative, and good self esteem come to mind.

        In 1988 a vendor’s 30s single mom was sent to our office to do an audit. For the first three days I admired her skills and talents but had no attraction to hustle her, and I was a single dad available too. But on her fourth morning I heard the powerful sounds of metal tips and hoped it was her. Later I walked by her sitting at a station and saw her metal tip bottoms. She wore a short (not slutty) black skirt and metal tip 3″ black pumps to work that morning and I was instantly hit by cupids arrow. Twenty-five years latter, we look at a terrific marriage, a successful blended family of five, both of us executives and even though she has retired from highheels we are still deeply in love. If I hadn’t heard her metal tips that day I may have missed out on her awesome personality. I truly believe a woman’s selection of metal tips gives her message.

        • tapgrrl 12:05 am on December 13, 2014 Permalink | Reply

          In the conversation about metal taps that I had with several women at my New York workplace (the one I mentioned above), one woman asked if metal taps could be put onto her stiletto-like high heels that she often wore to work. I told her about steel heel tips and only one of the other women had known they were available. On this trip I asked her if she’d gotten any for her high heels, but she said she hadn’t although the next time she took a pair in for heels she was going to ask about them. That is as far as that topic went, I’m afraid. I’ll let you know when I go back to NY in February if there was any progress in that direction!

          • JR 1:36 pm on December 14, 2014 Permalink

            Heather – as how the saying goes “one brick at a time”

  • tapgrrl 9:43 am on October 31, 2014 Permalink | Reply  

    Request for a comment 

    I recently got an email from a man who found the blog online. Rather than writing a comment to one of my posts, he emailed me instead but said I could post this on the blog if I thought some of the readers could help. So here’s what he wrote (spelling cleaned up):

    greetings Tapgrrl.

    I just found your blog and have read it nonstop. It and you are amazing. If you were my wife I would love you to death. But I’m already married and so are you. And I’m way older (65). But I have a problem and I thought maybe you could give me ideas or people in your group could.

    When I met my wife I was already what I guess is called a taphead. I have loved hearing and seeing taps on girls shoes since I was in grade school. My wife had never had taps on her shoes but while we were dating I asked her to put them on her shoes and she did. The first few years after we were married she was quite happy dto do that. We’d talk and joke about the taps and even while we were having sex. Sometimes she would take new shoes she bought into the shoe repair shop to have taps put on. Even for the next 20 years she would let me put taps on the heels of her shoes, but not on the toes after awhile, but over time she became less interested and only let me put taps on if I insisted. By the time our kids were grown and she was working in a professional job, she was annoyed with me for putting taps on her shoes. Now she avoids all the shoes she was with taps on them and only wears softsoled shoes and others that don’t have taps on. It has become a real annoyance to both of us, but seems hardly worth breaking up over. My question is is it a lost cause? Do you think theres anything I can do to get her to start wearing and enjoying taps on her shoes? If you think someone in your group could help me please write about my problem so they can read it.

    thank you.
    [name withheld]


    I wrote him back but really I don’t have any ideas for him. I talked this over with my local tap-wearing friend who was married to a woman who wore taps for 10 years but stopped, and I think he’s going to write him. But you guys are also in a better position to answer him than I am. So go for it. I told him to look at the blog to see what people say. Thanks!

    • Anonymous 11:45 am on November 1, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      My wife loved to wear taps because she knew how that affected me. Unfortunately, her health is not as good as it was when we were younger. She no longer wears taps, and is restricted to rubber-soled orthopedic shoes.

    • mark12547 11:44 pm on November 3, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      I saw horseshoe heel plates on a pair of rattlesnake skin cowboy boots yesterday at a rest stop. Since I was serving coffee, I couldn’t leave and see where his car hailed from, but it is the first time in years that I had heard heel plates in person.

    • Blake 11:26 am on November 4, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      That must have been awesome to actually hear the sound. Truly rare these day.

    • JR 3:10 pm on November 10, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      Hi Tapgrrl – In response to “name withheld”, been there and done that as a guy of 65 also. His story parallels mine and my wife. When she was younger the excitement her wearing metal taps was for her a sexually feeling of attractiveness and knowing that I got turned on, just like short skirts do :) As a byproduct, she really liked that her heels lasted nearly forever with metal. As she became a professional, metal taps gave the wrong message but metal tip highheels was even a message of POWER, so for about the next 10 years at one job, she had me reheel her highheels to metal tips. She and I even got a good feeling just talking about her metal tips which usually ended in sex. Now with a different job and aging knee problems, she only wears flats and no taps, plus metapause has totally killed her sexual excitement of any metal conversations, even to the point of shutting down. In her closet still are some of her most exciting metal heeled shoes like trophies. I dust them off once and a while.

      Tell “name withheld”, sorry but I have heard this from other guys as their wives got older also and it is best to file the memories in his head of her in her taps and what ever else turned him on and not push the issue at all. If his hearing still picks up high tones, or have him set his hearing aid to hear high tones, there are plenty of videos on You Tube to enjoy the metallic sounds of metal tips that will bring him to memories of those days with his wife. Debbie (younger) of SleepyStilettos, or Jonina53 (older) are good clean women that nearly exclusively wear metal tips on You Tube.

      I suggest “name withheld” looks at his wife’s finer qualities and enjoy his remaining years with her, otherwise he will need to find a mistress the age of his children and forget the empty nest life.


      • tapgrrl 3:43 pm on November 10, 2014 Permalink | Reply

        That’s good advice, JR. What I told him was that a couple of men in similar situations (including one who posts to this board occasionally) found that they could get turned on by wearing taps on their own shoes instead. Not quite the same, but I suppose that’s better than nothing.

        Do you put taps on your own shoes, JR? Or do you think of them as female accessories? That was Barry’s perspective, but men can actually get away with bigger and badder taps (ok, call them heel plates if it feels more masculine that way) than most tap-wearing women prefer, except for me who revels in the attention! :-)

        • JR 10:12 am on November 11, 2014 Permalink | Reply

          Now I prefer rubbery shoes for comfort and grip – even leather soles and hard heels jar my bones too much and may have added to why I needed hip replacements. In answer, I didn’t find any excitement or turn on in hearing like a Clydesdale, which I felt like with heel plates on my boots thirty years ago.

          Barry and I were on the same page, taps were then and are female accessories – taps and metal tips need to sound feminine, and with class announcing the presences of a female, Barry and I both agreed that when we would sneak a peak and see the dainty flash of metal under a woman’s shoe it was, and still is a turn on. It is all about the woman! (I loved Barry’s story about the professor’s assistant that had double v-cleats on her leather heel loafers at Texas A&M in 1969 – now that is class)

          Heather, to be honest, your preference of shoes and taps are atypical of any women I have known or seen with metal taps. Perhaps it is a Midwest thing, but women were more conservative on the size of their metal taps, even when chunky heels were in during the late 60s and early 70s. Until I saw your site pictures I never saw metal crescent taps used on toes (only the little staple-in metal toe cleat on stilettos).

          I really appreciate your passion for taps and for keeping tap conversations out in the public. Your site keeps spark going in us old guys about the women be gone.


  • tapgrrl 6:07 pm on May 10, 2014 Permalink | Reply  

    Most popular photos during the past 12 months 

    Most of these are older photos.  I guess I just haven’t been putting up many new ones, have I.  Sorry. :-( Well, one nice thing is that 4 of the 6 most clicked on shoes are mine! 85 81 70 68 62 62 61 59 56 56 55 55 54 52 48 48 46 42 41 40 39 39 38 38 38 37 37 36 36 36 36 35 35 35 34 34 33 33 32 32 32 32 31 31 31 31 31 30 30 30 30 30 30 30 30 30 30 29 29 29 29 29 29 28 28 28 28 27 27 27 27 27 26 26 26 26 25 25 25 25 25 25 25 24 24 24 24 24 24 24 24 24 24 23 23 23 23 23 23 22 22 22 22 21 21 21 21 21 21 21 20 20 20  
    • Anonymous 6:44 am on October 2, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      Hello Tapgirl, I remember you use to have your own website of custom tap videos. What happened to it?

    • tapgrrl 7:53 pm on October 5, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      No, not me. You are probably thinking of a tap dancer (who is really a librarian!). But yeah, she shut down the website, apparently, as Barry Bryson told me/us some time before he passed away. Can’t recall her website’s name, but it wouldn’t do you any good anyway.

  • tapgrrl 7:46 pm on April 1, 2014 Permalink | Reply  

    All Time Most Popular Postings on This Blog 

    I’ve not been posting new stuff for quite awhile.  Several reasons for that–busy life, not much new to write about, etc.–but also because Barry’s gone and not here to read these, it feels somewhat empty.  I think that mentally he was my audience–not that I don’t appreciate the rest of you.  Maybe if you were a writer, you’d know what I mean.  

    Anyway, to make up for that, and because there might be some old posts you’d find interesting, I thought I’d give you a list of the most popular all-time postings.  Of course, the older postings have had more time to make the ‘top 25′ list, but you might have forgotten some of those.  These 25 aren’t necessarily my favorite postings, though.  Maybe I’ll list those next time.

    But TELL ME, what are YOUR FAVORITE postings–from this list or otherwise. Any that you’d like UPDATES on? Hit the REPLY button on the upper right to write your Comments!

    Home page / Archives   31,944
    More Quotes…Men’s Horseshoe Taps & Cleats   3,311
    Men’s Boots With Steel Heel Plates–A Turn On?   1,527
    Sources for Eagle Taps and Horseshoe Plates   1,343
    Give that to me again?   1,313
    Still More Quotes…Suzy Steelheels (Barry’s words!)   1,099
    Metal taps–50′s or 60′s? And how big?   1,032
    How People Find Us   906
    More women clicking on cement   866
    More Samples of Women’s Taps   823
    What is it about horseshoe taps?   771
    We girls have many ways to click too (part 1)   710
    Steel-Tipped Stiletto Boots are Still Useful Sometimes!   670
    Steel Stilettos-Not for Me   655
    More photos of shoes with taps   632
    Most Popular Photos from This Blog   530
    Quotes From the Web — Girls and Women Wearing Metal Tapped Shoes   498
    Googling for metal taps   492
    Origins of the Tapboot Fetish (From Taphead25)   374
    Horseshoe Taps–Guess Which Ones are Mine?   374
    Before and After…from 1 Tapgirl to Another   337
    How People Find Us (past 30 days)   322
    Horseshoe Taps from “An Older Guy”   316
    Thank you QVC and I’m with you, Judaline!   303
    High School 1962 (?)                                                                                                                                                                           299
    • blakeync 10:58 am on April 2, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      the posts about horseshoe plates and the pictures are really GREAT

    • crushclogs 2:29 pm on April 2, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      i was so sorry to hear the sad news about your friend Barry . It’s so difficult to find someone to talk to who really understands the metal taps “thing”.Please keep posting the posts are so good ! I had a bad year last year but hope to get some of my projects done soon and i will send pictures .top of my list are wooden soled thigh boots with iron horseshoes and hobnails they should make a lot of noise and do some serious damage

  • tapgrrl 9:42 pm on March 17, 2014 Permalink | Reply  

    All time: Clickety-click blog:
    Who will be # 100,000?

    • Tapnut 2:33 am on March 18, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      Are there stats on who’s viewed the most?

      • tapgrrl 1:34 pm on March 18, 2014 Permalink | Reply

        Nope. Totally private. The only public information is Recent Comments (maybe over the past year). The numbers for that are Tapgrrl 135, Barry 93, Tapboot 57, Blake 43, Tapnut 27, Mark 22.

        But we are over 100,000 now. 55 more views since midnight.

        FYI, today’s views include these posts:
        All time Clickety click blog 99,950 views 605… 5
        Googling for metal taps 4
        More Women Clicking on Cement 2
        My life in horseshoe taps 2
        Copies of my shoe photos from Flickr 2
        Some of my shoes on Flickr 2
        What makes us so jazzed about clickety taps? 2
        More Samples of Women’s Taps 2
        and the photos that people clicked on to see enlarged are 2 1 1 1 1 1 1 1 1 1

        Today’s most recent searches leading people to pages on the blog are are “metal taps on women loafers”, 4; “loafers women heel toe taps”, 3; and “images metal heel taps on womeen loafers” 2. Actually, these are non-Google searches because Google doesn’t allow WordPress access to that information.

        But every day is different. Sometime I’ll upload the most popular posts, most popular photos, and most popular search terms over the past year like I’ve done a couple times before.

        All you data vultures will just have to wait! :-)

  • tapgrrl 7:24 pm on January 15, 2014 Permalink | Reply  

    Snapjacks on eBay. Awhile ago some of you had an interest in Snapjack shoes for men. There’s a pair on eBay, but it will set you back almost $300! Its only taps are teeny metal ones on the toes, but it looks like it has new heels so you could add your own horseshoes if you so wish.

  • tapgrrl 7:40 pm on January 13, 2014 Permalink | Reply  

    Dear friend Barry has passed away… 

    It is with deep sadness that I must tell those of you who don’t know that Barry Bryson, one of the most active participants on this blog and a close on-line friend for over 15 years, has passed away.  Barry was among the first people I met online who shared my love for the clicky sounds of taps on shoes.  And he was pure of heart and had an agile and fun-loving mind.  I will miss him greatly.

    For those who didn’t know him well, he suffered in his last years from diabetes and, I believe, from a heart ailment as well.  He overcame the adversity of a leg amputation due to the diabetes, but to the end he remained enthusiastic and optimistic, sharing the joy of his life with all of us.

    God bless you, Barry. 

    • Norv 9:02 pm on January 13, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      R.I.P. Brother Barry- you deserve to be in “taps heaven” with beautiful ladies in all the glory of the tap laden footwear asking you to design perfect taps for them. He was a gracious Southern Gentleman & will be truly missed by all who came to know him. Norv in Raleigh,N.C.

    • tapboot 9:32 am on January 14, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      I, too will miss Barry. I wish I had made the trek to Texas (500 mi +/-) to meet him in person. He has been a real inspiration to our blog group. And during his career he was a fellow engineer.

    • Blake-oh 2:50 pm on January 14, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      His passing is a loss to those of us who enjoy the sights and sounds of taps on footwear. His creativity was wonderful

      • JR 6:56 pm on January 20, 2014 Permalink | Reply

        My feelings are the same. For probably 10 years on and off he and I shared our experiences and thoughts about the attraction to women with taps in our generation. It wasn’t about the metal as much as about the woman with the metal. For years he was just Yuhudi, but a real sincere guy. This hits home that Barry and I are the same age, and engineers too.

        • tapgrrl 7:54 pm on January 20, 2014 Permalink | Reply

          My goodness! You’re all ENGINEERS! Barry, may he rest in peace, Tapboot, JR, and also, I’ve discovered, so is Tapnut. WHAT DOES THIS MEAN????

          • JR 9:09 pm on January 20, 2014 Permalink

            Means? – Heather, maybe you missed your calling.

          • Tapnut 2:15 am on March 18, 2014 Permalink

            I’m an Engineer too! But about to retire….and do more clicking!

    • Anonymous 4:25 am on January 15, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      This is a shame. Even though I never met Barry I feel like he was a friend because of all of the communication over the years. His commentary and insight into tapped footwear will be missed. God Bless.

    • JJHoofer 11:27 pm on November 10, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      I’m just now reading about the passing of Barry. I’m so sorry to learn of it. I’ll fondly remember my conversations with him via sites such as this and later on in emails back and forth. I remember I was going to send him a pair of my wife’s shoes to see if he could work his magic on them, but we never got around to it. Rest in peace my friend, and I do hope you are surrounded by a legion of tapgirls in heaven.

  • tapgrrl 9:19 pm on November 11, 2013 Permalink | Reply  

    Taps at Work–answering a questionnaire 

    One of the regulars here posed some questions to me Saturday night about my wearing taps at work. It can be a problem for people because (a) hardly anyone, well NO ONE, puts metal taps on their shoes anymore; and (b) they’re noticeable–for some of us that’s their whole point–besides hearing your own click-click walk which I imagine most of us really really like.

    I think overall it is different for women than for guys. I took a sociology class once and here’s an idea that stuck with me: Women are taught by our culture to be the chosen and men to be the choosers. To be chosen, you have to look your best and attract favorable attention. Thus, the click of high heels, often with metal heel tips, is probably the most common and long-lasting shoe-related element for women of getting attention and being chosen. But I generally don’t like the feel or experience of walking in high heels. So for me, taps are a much better option.

    I LIKE to make eye contact with people. I like them to smile at me. I even like to say ‘hi’ and have them say ‘hi’ back! I don’t mind if they ask me about my taps. My only real pet peeve involving being noticed with metal taps on my shoes is being asked “Why are you wearing tap (dancing) shoes?” They’re NOT TAP SHOES for God’s sake!

    O.K. Here are some of his questions and my answers.

    Did you wear them to your [job] interview(s)?
    Funny you should ask that. My first job after college was at a pretty large newspaper, and I actually did wear my brown/orange western boots with horseshoe taps to my job interview! I suppose back then I didn’t think much about what other people would think (still don’t, HAHAHA) and those boots were a good complement to what I was wearing that day. AND I actually think they HELPED me get the job! First, because wearing them probably helped my self-confidence–the click-click-click sounds feel (to me) both sexy and authoritative at the same time.  Second, because a couple people I interviewed with actually commented that they liked my boots! I’ve probably worn shoes with taps to ALL my job interviews, but that’s the one I most remember.

    On your first day at work?
    Same answer–I’m sure I wore shoes with taps the first day on every job I’ve had where I’ve worked outside my home–restaurant hostess, insurance office clerk, researcher for a newspaper, and grocery store cashier. On my current job (the one I work at outside of my home), I wore sandals the first day and I remember that because it was a no-no. It’s a food store and their rule is no sandals. So it wasn’t the taps that got me in trouble!

    Did you broach your obsession early-on?
    You mean do I talk about having taps on my shoes with other people I work with? Only if they ask. It’s not anything I’m ashamed of. But I wouldn’t ever come out and say it was a sexual turn-on or anything. That’s pretty private. Of course, when I met a man on my job, a man I’m still friends with, and he told me HE had a “fetish” for taps, I admitted I liked them that way too. But he went first, and he was a customer, not a co-worker.

    How did your co-workers react?
    There’s all kinds of reactions, of course, just like with non-co-workers. Out of maybe 100 people I’ve worked with on those jobs (including the work I do at home for a company in New York), probably 85-90 have never said a thing to me about them. Everyone has their own thing; people either don’t notice, or don’t care, or don’t want to ask about someone else’s thing. Four or five women co-workers have asked me about them over the years and one of them told me later that she got taps put on a pair of her shoes (though she never wore them to work, so I just have to take her at her word). The rest were guys who either said they liked hearing me walk around or asked me if I was a tap-dancer. (As I said, that’s the one comment I really don’t like.) I can recall one or two older men, probably at the newspaper or maybe the insurance office, who told me that they had taps on their shoes when they were in school many decades earlier.

    Were you such a exemplarily employee that they tolerated your taps?
    I really doubt that “toleration” has ever been an issue. Maybe if I worked at a place with really posh wood floors, it would have been a problem. But I never have worked at places like that. Anyway, I didn’t work outside my home when my kids were little, so my work experience maybe isn’t what you were thinking of. No one has ever complained or criticized me for wearing shoes with taps, at least not to my face and not that I’d ever heard.

    Did you have occasions where you felt awkward and walked softly?
    Sure, when everyone was working quietly at the newspaper or the insurance office, I would try not to bother them with my clickety walk. But I can generally walk lightly when I need to. The only real problem at the grocery store is that the floor tends to be a little slippery. So when I walk down the aisles, I try to walk lightly so as not to slip. So far, so good.

    Did you ever get categorized as a certain type of person for wearing them?
    I’m sure some of the older women at the newspaper and the insurance office thought I was immature, but then I was!  I was under 25 then.  And I suppose some of the men might have classified me as a “hottie.” (I like to think so, anyway!) Currently, the way I stand out where I work now is not so much the taps but that I use a fair amount of makeup and color my hair a bright shade of blonde. This is a very laid-back place, and I pretty much stand out as “Ms Glamour.” So I’m pretty sure that when I started there, a lot of the people didn’t know quite what to make of me. Also, when I changed from one store to another one in the same “chain” I had the same “who IS that BLONDE?” experience. But, I’ve been at the new store for a couple years and we’re all pretty cool with one another. Most of my co-workers are a bit younger than me and I’ve got some seniority now. But, really, taps haven’t had anything to do with my status at the store.

    Have you had to justify why you like them or how important they are to you?
    Only to my stepdad! And my hubby, who tolerates them because he likes the attention I get when he’s with me.  But, again, among co-workers it’s a non-issue.

    I’m afraid this was a pretty boring Q&A. Maybe it helps you understand who I am, but it probably isn’t going to give a shy guy the balls (figuratively, honest) to click loudly into work one day. Actually, it probably IS harder on a job where you’re already well-defined to other people.  It may be a stretch, but maybe if someone really wanted to overcome shyness, he should get a new job or move to a new town so the taps are just part of who he is right from the start. Anyway, just a thought.

    This post is too long to add tap photos. Next time.


    • Barry Bryson 11:08 am on December 8, 2013 Permalink | Reply

      Thanks for your insight of a Tapgirl at work, Heather. I knew only from old girlfriends I had tried (usually unsuccessfully) to persuade into “Tapgirlism” at work. What started off as a minor sensation usually resulted in disaster; as one such girlfriend removed her new Bass loafers and actually RAN OVER them with her huge Plymouth because of the #5 Eagle steelies on the heels! (One heel popped completely off; while the other shoe suffered indelible tire marks on its medial side!) She also violently stabbed an oversize Teddy bear “to death” in her apartment around the same time. I suppose the stuffed animal was an effigy of me! And I had kinky sex with this woman? DUH!! We dated 3 yrs.; but only about one “on steel”. The other two were nylon and Neoprene! I became a regular at the shoe cobbler’s supply because of her…Heather knows which one.

      My only major success with a Tapgirl convert was my first wife, Carmen. She was not Hispanic; as many folks think Mexicans in Texas are natural shoe tap lovers. And quite a few high school boys are…on boots, anyway. But Carmen was a rather insecure 29 yr. old who was still recovering from a very bad marriage at 19. She had one daughter, age 9; and they both lived with Carmen’s parents. So this made Carmen more of a big sister to the girl rather than a mom. Needles to say, Carmen was looking to start a new life for herself and her daughter; while I was looking for someone (preferably a Tapgirl) to settle down with. I was 37 at the time; and my folks were beginning to think I was “gay” or something. My tap dancing class didn’t help my image in their minds; but it sure as heck got me close to a bunch of stunning Tapgirls! Unfortunately, all but two already had their “Mrs. degrees”, usually to successful doctors or businessmen. And one of the two single “chicks with clicks” had the personality of a rattlesnake. The one friendly single Tapgirl was Jewish, which didn’t bother me at all (she had a “killer” body); but her idea of fun was to rent me out by the hour as a “husband” to repair plumbing and electrical in the big city! But we became good friends, exchanging birthday gifts. Yeah, she got new tap shoes….the best! And I got a big kiss, right in front of everybody. The shame of a straight man caught in the “pink zone”! I did a lot of tap shoe repair in those days!

      But, back to Carmen: she took to the taps I put on at least half her street shoes like a duck to water! I was amazed and delighted. She even called me at work while we were dating to tell me of “another man zapped” by her taps while she went on lunch break. She worked as a secretary for an eye doctor in E. Texas and was well-liked around her hometown. The taps on her loafers and flats became sort of her signature, or at least a sonic warning that she was “comin’ ’round the corner” on the sidewalk. I do think her response to my tap fetish helped to cement our relationship and led directly to a wedding 18 months later. I also think that being a bit “loud and proud” with her shoes boosted her self-confidence. Carmen wasn’t the least embarrassed when we went out, and the restaurant waiters stared at her shoes with the Betty Boop sound effects. (Check out Betty Boop cartoons on You Tube…all of her shoes sound like tap shoes; and the artist often draws in sound waves radiating from each step.) Another taphead? This was about the time I alienated a tap teacher in KS with my comments on making love to a girlfriend dressed as a Rockette, complete with taps that jingle-jangle-jingle during the act. It was on Heather’s blog, if I remember correctly.

      Who’d ‘a thought that a marriage made in Newark NJ (at the Star Heel Plate Co.) would end in death just 2 yrs. later? I still have the silver ballet flats with full dance taps she wore under her wedding dress. One little girl at the reception was totally confused….”It sounds like tap class?” She never located the source! And Carmen lived long enough to happily lay down iron all over New Orleans on our honeymoon; though she never took a tap dance class. She was insanely jealous of even magazine pictures of Rockettes and other Tapgirls I had collected over the ages. She probably knew that one secret to our happy union was to reveal the steel! It was just one of those thoughtful little things that made me love her more. I love my current wife, Barbara, with all my heart…but she’ll never be a real Tapgirl! I’m too old now, anyway. Life is short….play hard with hobnails! Oh to sight another “Heather”, chopping across glassy concrete in Costco! The boys in the SE are a lucky bunch, indeed!


  • tapgrrl 8:43 pm on November 3, 2013 Permalink | Reply  

    Tap-Wearing Longevity Records 

    I’ve been emailing with a couple of blog commentators (Barry and John/Tapboot and a third who shall remain nameless) and we were comparing how long people have been wearing taps on their shoes and how long a tap spouse/gf/bf has been wearing (or did wear) taps.  So I was wondering what the record is among us for each of these categories:

    * longest duration of continuous tap-wearing during marriage (that is, for how many years did you or your spouse wear shoes with taps at least several days a week)

    * longest duration of tap-wearing period (how long you or she/he wore taps regardless of whether you/he/she were married)

    * longest duration where both you and your partner (married or not) BOTH wore taps on your shoes

    * same three questions for horseshoe taps only (wearing them, say, several times a month or more)

    * what was the most number of pairs of shoes you/he/she had in your closet, etc.  with taps on them 

    * what was the most number of pairs of shoes with horseshoe taps you/he/she had

    You’re all welcome to add questions to this list, as long as you try to answer some of mine!  You’re also welcome to just write more generally–this isn’t a test!  Or even a contest!

    I’ll post my answers after a few of you have posted yours.ImageImageImageImageImage


    • Mark 5:33 pm on November 4, 2013 Permalink | Reply

      I won’t break any longevity record, but maybe I could break the ice. :)

      Never married, never had a partner, so those questions don’t apply.

      I had regular taps for about a week, then replaced them with horseshoe heel plates for about a year on a pair of harness boots that I wore every day.

      Maximum pair of tapped footwear: 1 (those harness boots).

    • Barry Bryson 9:24 pm on November 4, 2013 Permalink | Reply

      First: the horseshoe taps. Sadly, I have never worn any; but my current wife Barbara did from about 2000 until 2007 or so. These were Marbo horseshoes on a pair of Dexter tan tassel loafers; Star (Eagle) on a pair of Eastland navy traditional penny loafers for about 5 years, and one pair of Bass Weejun burgundy penny loafers from about 2000 until ’06 or so. Her longest worn pair of crescent (Eagle) taps were size 5’s on a pair of Sam & Libby black ballet flats…about 9 years. There were many more 5’s and 6’s on loafers, including some awful “dingy” sounding 5’s on soft red SAS penny loafers with semi-hard crepe unit soles/heels. I couldn’t find and sturdy red kidskin loafers in the early 2000’s; so these had to do. Today the shoe situation is better, thanks to Ebay and the Salvation Army “shoe barrels”; but Barb had hip surgery around ’08 and today is afraid of slipping even on small taps. She still has about 15 pairs of tapped-up flats and loafers gathering dust with maybe 5 more in the shop, tapless. I want to try some “Flamenco” nail “taps” made with #7/8 round head soling clinch nails driven through 1/2″ nylon over leather heels and clinched on the iron last. These will allow at least partial contact with the BB-sized round steel spheres scraping concrete. Barb claims she doesn’t mind the taps at all (after 14 years of putting up with my fetish!); but she just doesn’t want to slip and fall with the new hardware in her hip joints. I can respect that. It’s just time for a younger Tapgirl….NOT! We both are getting too old, I feel. But I really would like to hire a Tapgirl/model and shoot some video; maybe to promote some pointe shoe taps and specialty stuff. Can you imagine Hollyweird coming out with a feature length Tapgirl movie?

      None of my steel-heeled girlfriends/wives were Tapgirls until I corrupted them! Carmen (1957-1990) was by far the most enthusiastic. She loved confusing people in crowds with her taps; and she Wowed me with sexy, tapped up shoes (mostly Maryjanes) in the bedroom. They really weren’t all that necessary; but the little tap stories she told me during foreplay really raised my boiler pressure! There would never be another Tapgirl as accommodating as Carmen.

      Barb and I were married when I was 50 and on the verge of diabetes. She wore the steel longer than anyone else; but I felt her heart was never in it. Lately she’s squawked when I attempted videoing a little shoeplay with taps. It’s late in the 4th quarter; and you can never go back. They might as well bury me with a cast iron shoe jack and last coming out of the ground, with an old upside down majorette boot flashing metal in the sun!

      • Mark 11:16 pm on November 5, 2013 Permalink | Reply

        The slip hazard is one I understand and is why I am not even looking for heel plates. When wet linoleum floors are slick enough with rubber soles with tread, it sounds like a definite fall with metal on the heels, especially for someone a little uncoordinated like me. I could buy a lot of light hiking boots for the money I save by not paying my copay for treating a broken hip. :(

        Also, with my weight, having cushioning in the footwear usually means not having footwear suitable for metal, unless I build up the footbed with insoles.

        Back in a much drier California than in the Pacific Northwet, with much younger and more flexible bones and a lighter body, it was a different story. :)

    • Tapnut 1:51 am on November 5, 2013 Permalink | Reply

      In a post on April 1st, 2012 I gave a brief history of wearing taps. Here’s an expanded version:
      In JrHi (~1957) I saw another boy with Horseshoe taps and had to have them but I couldn’t wear them to school. But in HS I was able to wear them to school and I enjoyed making noise and wanted to be cool. I think I had only one pair then. I wore them again in the early 70s and now and again in the 80s and early 90s. I had maybe up to six pair in these seasons including at least one platform pair. I got my wife to wear them in the early 70s for maybe 6mos. After she voiced her disapproval, I wore them when I wasn’t around her…sometimes also to work.
      Starting in 2005, I got turned on again. I now have 8 pair with lots of different tap treatments (most are posted on this blog). I wear them most every day around the house and outside but sometimes also to stores. I love big, shinny taps that make lots of noise!
      Tapped-up shoes are fun to wear and I enjoy the challenge of not falling on my butt. I’d bet others would enjoy them too if they’d give them a try. My current favorites are my Noisy Clogs with hobnails posted on July 29.
      PS, to reiterate, I have only worn horseshoe shaped taps on my heels. I’ve never worn half-moon taps on my heels.

      • tapgrrl 10:28 pm on November 7, 2013 Permalink | Reply

        So your wife did wear horseshoe taps too for a little while? On boots or ???? If you asked her to just put smaller taps on her shoes, what would she have said?

        • Tapnut 3:15 am on November 10, 2013 Permalink | Reply

          On penny loafers…the quintessential shoe for taps! Smaller taps were unacceptable. They are solely for reducing heel wear…not for making impressions! Also, it was 2009 when i got turned on again (not 2005).

    • tapgrrl 12:01 am on November 7, 2013 Permalink | Reply

      This is actually from John Tapboot. Don’t know why he didn’t post himself, but here’s his answer:

      No. of years wearing taps:

      First taps (they were horseshoes and continentals)=1965

      Married, first time=1968; Divorced 1994. Remarried 1994.

      Second pair of horseshoe taps, on new harness boots=1972

      Have continuously worn taps ever since then, i.e.= 41 years

      Wives wearing taps:

      First wife: 1971-1973, about two years, on boots

      Second wife (present wife) From time we started dating, about 7 years.

      Don’t recall ever dating any girls that wore taps, other than my present wife Carol.

      Pairs of shoes & boots in closet with horseshoe taps: 20+/-

      All shoes/boots with taps (some have dance taps on heels and toes): 25+/-

      Keep in mind, I’m still wearing boots with horseshoe taps almost every day!! My wife loves it!!



    • Dan (older guy) 10:44 am on November 7, 2013 Permalink | Reply

      I have been one of the lucky ones who married a woman who was already wearing shoes with taps on them. It was her dad who put them on her shoes first when she was in junior high in the 1950s. Then after high school, she had them put on herself as a way of expressing her independence from school authorities who wouldn’t let her wear shoes with taps. When I met her, she was a junior in college and she quickly learned that I loved it that she had taps on her loafers and flats. So even when other girls stopped putting taps on, she continued to do so, mostly for my benefit. We married in 1969 and by that time she had maybe six pairs of shoes with taps including some dressy loafers that had the type with the built-in prongs. Like Heather, her taps got larger over the years mostly because I started putting them on her shoes myself! I even got her to wear shoes with horseshoe taps, one pair of oxfords (briefly) and one pair of loafers (for several years). At the very most, she might have had nine or ten pairs of shoes with taps on them. But as she got older, she was less interested in accommodating to my fetish. She fell in love with Birkenstocks and sneakers and eventually began to have foot problems. She hasn’t worn shoes with taps on them (several times a week as Tapgrrl asked for) for probably five or six years, maybe more. Meanwhile, missing the sound of taps, I’ve overcome my reluctance to wear them on my shoes and have begun doing so for at least the past 15 years. Horseshoes only at night where they aren’t likely to be noticed or in the privacy of my home. So here’s my answers:

      Duration during marriage: One or the other of us, since 1969: 44 years!
      Duration regardless of marriage:
      Her: (I’m guessing about the time before we met…) 1959-2007: 48 years!
      Me: 15 years.
      Both of us together: 9 years or so, 1998-2007
      Horseshoe taps: Her loafers: maybe 3 years.
      Me: (counting wearing at home): guessing 10 years
      Most pairs with taps: her: 10 pair
      Me: at least 50 pair now.
      Most pairs with horseshoe taps: her: 2
      Me: at least 30 pair now.

      • tapgrrl 10:52 pm on November 7, 2013 Permalink | Reply

        Wow! Your wife wore taps for 48 years? I doubt I will ever beat that record!!!!! I’d be 65 years old then!

        • Barry Bryson 9:50 am on November 15, 2013 Permalink | Reply

          Heather, you’ll probably be printing your own horseshoe taps on one of those gun printers before then. Star Heel Plate can just close down!

    • tapgrrl 10:50 pm on November 7, 2013 Permalink | Reply

      Alright. Here’s my own answers to my questions…

      I started wearing taps on my shoes when I was in high school in 1992, and I’ve had them on my shoes ever since, so that would be 21 years and counting! My first horseshoe taps were on a pair of ankle boots in about 1998 after I first learned about them from John Tapboot and from Barry. And I guess I’ve worn horseshoe taps on some occasions during most months (except maybe summertime) since then or at least since 2000. So that’s 13-15 years. I got my husband to wear shoes with taps for a little while, maybe 3 years at most, and they were a mix of horseshoe taps on black oxfords and boots and Eagle halfmoons on those and on loafers, maybe 10 pairs of shoes and boots altogether. As for how many pairs of shoes I have had with taps on them at one time, I just counted 44 pairs that are out now and I probably have another 25 pairs packed away for colder weather, a lot of those being boots with horseshoe taps on them, and several pairs of shoes that don’t really fit me but which I’m not ready to give away! I probably have 20 pairs of boots and shoes altogether with horseshoe taps–mostly boots but also penny loafers and skimmer flats. Yeah, I guess I’m a shoe freak as well as a “tap goddess” (the latter according to a certain person who posts on this blog).

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